Have you ever gotten stuck thinking that the person you just broke up with is the only one for you and that you’ll never find another relationship as good? I know I have, many times, especially in my early dating years.
I’m pleased to tell you that it’s not true. You learn, grow, and improve your selection skills with each failed relationship. So the next relationship you have will be better than the last guaranteed! If you think about it, there is no other possibility unless you let the breakup destroy you. The wise course of action is to use the pain of the breakup to improve yourself a lot! I mean dramatically in every area of your life that you’ve been putting off fixing or working on for years! Do those now!
The pain of a breakup produces powerful energy that you can use to transform or destroy yourself. It’s that powerful. The good news is that when used to transform, this energy will soon convert from energy produced by pain to energy produced by accomplishment and success. In this sweet spot, you will feel inspired to spontaneously approach a new love interest, someone you would not have approached in the past. It’s glorious!
In that last section, I thought about my experiences with this very thing that has happened to me several times. It has always followed a breakup. Unfortunately, or fortunately, for me, it is the outcome I’ve gone through with many breakups. But then I’ve had a lot of girlfriends, so I’ve learned and grown a lot.
So… if you just ended a relationship, get up, get busy, and “make your life extraordinary” (Robin Williams, Dead Poets Society).
Make yourself proud. And remember to be kind to yourself.