Invest your time if the woman you’re dating does these things.
- Refuses to have sex with you during early dating, but shows great interest in you and your relationship.
- Agrees to go out with you when you ask her or suggests an alternative if she can’t make it on a specific date.
- Apologizes emphatically if she has to change your plans for a date.
- Doesn’t cancel dates unless it’s a serious emergency.
- Does not call you more than what is appropriate.
- Returns your calls, text messages, emails, and other communications promptly.
- Is excited about seeing you, but not desperate.
- Is always well-groomed and well-dressed when you pick her up for dates.
- Talks little about herself unless you ask.
- Asks you a lot of questions about your life.
- Shows great interest in what you’re talking about.
- Demonstrates an optimistic attitude.
- Demonstrates honesty and forthrightness.
- Constantly encourages and praises you.
- Makes you feel good about yourself.
- Makes you want to be a better man.
- Keeps her attention on you during your dates.
- Does not check out other men during your dates.
- Does not try to change aspects of your appearance or personality.
- Does not talk negatively about her friends and other people in general.
- Does not share gossip.
- Talks favorably about your relationship.
- Is always willing to have mature and constructive conversations about your relationship or any other topic.
- Is always able to have a mature and constructive conversation about your relationship or any other topic without getting confrontational or yelling.
- Does not ever talk to you about sensitive issues with another person present, especially a girlfriend or a family member.
- Shows an aptitude for good judgment.
- Shows an aptitude for smart spending and money management.
- Shows an interest in fitness, exercise, and healthy eating.
- Invites you to events with her friends and family when appropriate to do so.
- Puts no pressure on you about getting married.
- Is willing to openly discuss sexually transmitted disease history and testing.
- Is willing to openly talk about taking measures to prevent pregnancy.
- Is willing to openly talk about what she’s doing to prevent pregnancy.
- Demonstrates no tendencies for physical or emotional abuse of you or anyone.
If all or most of these things apply to the woman you’re seeing, I’d recommend a superior and sizable time investment in her. Because like that old classic Tom Jones song, “She’s got style, she’s got grace, …she’s a lady!”