You are never alone except for a tiny part of you. The part that’s uniquely you, the part that no other person completely knows or understands.
If you are hurting right now, my heart goes out to you. I’ve been there many times myself. It feels incredibly lonely in that place. It feels like you are the only person on earth who feels as you do. Any emotional pain seems to bring out and amplify the sense of being alone.
The truth is, you are never alone with any problem you face. Hundreds of people worldwide, probably thousands, are experiencing the same situation as you. Recalling this truth is comforting when you are going through a tough time. It also gives you a more realistic perspective.
We are all part of the same human family. Our differences are so small that they can only be seen with a microscope. Therefore, what we experience and feel is almost identical. This is why we are never alone with our problems. And it doesn’t matter whether a person is rich or poor, we all share many of the same problems.
I became aware of this reality when I traveled outside the US for the first time in my early 20s. I had the opportunity to spend a summer in Greece, mostly on the island of Kalymnos. Although the language, culture, and lifestyle were completely different from mine, I was amazed that the Greek people had the same personal problems as we had in the US. I was fascinated by how similar we were internally, even though our external environments differed.
My fascination with this area never left me. Whenever I talked with someone from another country, I’d ask them the same questions to determine if their personal problems were similar. They were always the same, regardless of their ethnicity, nationality, or religion. I eventually concluded that we are never alone in the problems we experience because other people are always going through the same thing.
The tiny part that’s different is your unique makeup and life experience. This is what separates each of us from each other. There’s no way to identify clear similarities in this area. In this tiny way, we are each completely alone, but not separate. As I mentioned before, we have infinitely more similarities than differences. So in that sense, we are never alone.
However, your uniqueness is your only true guide for what’s best for you. No person on earth is better qualified to give you guidance than you.
Your unique makeup and life experience are in your mind, mainly in your subconscious. This tiny unique part of you is your compass, guide, and best friend. No one else can access this part of you—not even the world’s most educated and gifted psychologist! This navigational information is delivered to you through intuition or gut feelings.
For hundreds of years, your ability to overcome any problem has been proven. Our ancestors have confirmed that we can persevere and prevail over almost anything.
Geneticists believe that at this point in human history, it is likely that most of us have at least a few genes from the people of all the continents of the world. That means you might have a few genes from Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, da Vinci, Michelangelo, Mozart, Curie, Einstein, Earhart, or anyone else you can think of.
“A gene is the basic unit of heredity in a living organism. All living things depend on genes. Genes hold the information to build and maintain an organism’s cells and pass genetic traits to offspring.” – Wikipedia
Let’s assume you have several genes from these great men and women. Do you think there’s a chance that you might be able to bring out these genes to your advantage if you concentrate and believe it’s possible? People can heal themselves of cancer with their minds. Why can’t you activate the best of what’s in you by focusing your thoughts on that outcome?
If you think what I am saying is nonsense and that it won’t work, you will surely get that result! On the other hand, if you believe it’s possible and have a little faith that it can happen, you’re likely to see a positive result—possibly an incredible one!
If this is too far-fetched for you, look at the heroes in your family tree. You certainly have a good supply of their genes in you. All you have to do is look at the strengths and talents that you admire in them and see if you can recognize and bring them out in yourself. This may not be easy, though. These traits may have never been accessed, used, or activated. You may have to look very hard to see whether you have them.
Some genes and traits are passed on to certain family members, some are not, while others are modified, dominant, or recessive. Dominant and recessive refer to a gene’s ability to express itself or not. For example, dark hair genes are usually dominant over light hair genes.
If you consider how your hero relative had to dig deep and stretch him or herself to accomplish what they did, then you will have an idea of what will be required for you to achieve similar results. From that point, your accomplishments may go beyond what they were able to achieve. And in doing so, create a higher benchmark within your family tree and establish your own legacy.
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When our lives are going well, we rarely feel alone. But when problems come, feeling alone can be pretty intense. During these times, it’s imperative that you remember that you are never alone with whatever problem you are facing. It’s also important to remind yourself that you do have the proven ability to triumph over whatever challenge you are facing.
You are never alone.