Have you ever tried to imitate the look or behavior of a person you admired? Have you ever felt you would be more successful in making friends or getting dates if your personality or body were like someone else? Have you ever changed your appearance or character to try to be like one of your heroes? I would imagine that everyone has done this at some point.
It’s okay to have role models and heroes. But any attempt to mold yourself into being someone else will only result in producing a cheap copy. Unfortunately, cheap copies are easy to spot and unattractive.
It is “impossible” to become someone else. Your basic structure and design are set. Sure, you can change your body by losing weight, modify your look by wearing your hair differently, and strengthen your personality by becoming a skilled public speaker. But the basic framework and psychology on which these things are built are the same!
Your power, mystery, and attractiveness are found in being yourself. You can enhance each of these through personal development. The more you become the best version of yourself, the greater your power, mystery (uniqueness = aphrodisiac), and attractiveness.
If you think about it, is it not the people you admire most who are unique (being themselves), have high self-esteem, and never try to look or act like someone else? In considering my heroes throughout my life, all of them fit this description.
I have the perfect book for you if you need help, guidance, or inspiration in this area. This classic book is Dare to Be Yourself – How to Quit Being an Extra in Other Peoples Movies and Become the Star of Your Own by Alan Cohen
Drop the acting and become the star in your life story by nurturing your unique (bad) self! 🙂